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6 + 1 Tips to Getting Your Life Back As a Teen

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6 + 1 Tips to Getting Your Life Back

As A Teen

Getting your life back together isn’t the problem

Accepting that it is part of growing up is

-         ANONYMOUS

“I need to get my life back together”

Heard them before. Times without number. From others and from myself. And maybe from you. And it’s like the more we say it, the more we seem to be losing it. The mess might be so hard that cleaning up might be harder than throwing all of ‘em away.

Before we proceed, let these words sink into that deep part of you.

“Give yourself a break!”

Yes.  Stop staring, close your eyes and for once, take a deep breath.

Good.

There are 6 + 1 tips up for you to try. They are not steps- so you don’t have to follow them accordingly. They are not rules for you to obey. They are just tips. Up for you to try. So you can start with any that best suits you. Oh! I’d suggest you start with the extra tip: the +1 tip. Comes in very handy. If you get this tip fixed with you, it would be easier to keep to the rest. You just keep a “fewi fewi” open mind and heart and we are good to go!

Tip # +1- Accept Yourself

You see, we can accept so many things: a friend’s behavior, a dog peeing on your boots or children tramping on your just-made flower beds for practicals (hmm! That might be so hard to accept) but sometimes, it’s hard to accept ourselves exactly the way we are. You can’t go back and change anything, so you’ve got to work with what you’ve got, and boy, how do you work with what you don’t what to accept? So let’s begin with simple accepting. It’s easy because that is what it says- accepting. You don’t have to improve or strive for perfection. Quite the opposite. Accept. Let go.

This doesn’t mean we are happy with everything about ourselves, or that we are going to be lazy with ourselves, and lead a bad life. What you are going to do is accept yourself the way you are, and then build on that. To forgive and build a strong friendship with yourself. What you aren’t going to do is to beat yourself up because you don’t like some bits. It’s going to take some time though, but I know that you are the capable teen.

Tip #1- Keep promises to yourself

Hey, I believe you’ve started accepting yourself. So good to hear. Now you have to treat the commitments you make to yourself as seriously as the ones you make to the peeps that means the most to you. If you are feeling out of control, focus on the one thing you can control which is yourself. Start making small commitments like eating healthily today or brushing your teeth before going to bed, to large commitments like breaking up with an abusive boyfriend. One step at a time Baby, no need to rush.

Tip #2- Do small acts of kindness

If you feel depressed or frustrated. You could start with this tip. One easy way to lift your mood magically is to do little acts of kindness to people and also to those that may not be able to pay you back. It makes you focused outward rather than on yourself. Go out of the way to say “hello” to the loneliest girl in your class, write a “thank-you” note to a friend who helped you out with something. Form a group with some of your friends and visit the orphanage. Compliment sincerely. Giving gives life not only to others, but to us also.

Tip #3- Be gentle with yourself

“Truly learning to love yourself” as Whitney Houston says “is the greatest love of all”. Being gentle means so many things. It means understanding that mistakes are inevitable, that wisdom isn’t about making mistakes but about escaping afterwards with your dignity and sanity intact. If you are a late bloomer-and many of us are, just be patient with yourself and give yourself time to grow. Laugh at the stupid things you do but never laugh at others- they are just as naïve as you are. Forgive yourself when you mess up and do remember this: one of the keys to happiness is a bad memory

Tip #4- Be Honest

Honesty comes in many forms. First, there is self-honesty. Is what people see in you the genuine article or do you appear through smoke and mirrors? Then there’s honesty in our actions. You can’t do wrong and feel right. But keep in mind that it takes courage to be honest when all the people around you are deep down in evil. Your strength becomes the strength of ten when your heart is pure. Honesty might not be the trend, but it is sure the best policy.

Tip #5- Renew Yourself

Teens, you got to make time to renew yourself. Time no other thing interferes at all, not even coffee. This is time for you to relax and recharge. If you don’t you will lose your zest for life. We all need a place to escape to. A sanctuary of some sort where all the noise is shut out. It could be a tree, your bedroom, or a bathroom. Anywhere you can be alone. Once in a while, more of the time, try to be more in with yourself than out with others.

Tip #6- Tap into your talents

Finding and developing a talent, hobby or special interest can be one single greatest deposit you can make in your life. Talents come in a variety of packages. Discover them and don’t think small. It may take time but remember Tip #3. When you do something you love doing, it’s exhilarating. It’s a form of self expression.

So my teenage friends if you need to pull yourself together start with these tips. Don’t be too hard on yourself. And don’t forget the power of commitment. It has power, genius and magic in it.

 

Teenvibes: A Positive Paradigm (Son of King Louis XVI of France)

Teenvibes: A Positive Paradigm (Son of King Louis XVI of France)

A Positive Paradigm (Son of King Louis XVI of France)

   King Louis had been taken from his throne and imprisoned. His young son, the prince, was taken by those who dethroned the king. They thought that inasmuch as the king's son was heir to the throne, it they would destroy him morally, he would never realize the great and grand destiny that life had bestowed upon him.
   They took him to a community far away, and there they exposed the lad to every filthy and vile things that life could offer. They exposed him to foods the richness of which would quickly make him a slave to appetite. They exposed him to lewd and lusting women. They used vile language around him constantly. They exposed him to dishonor and distrust. He was surrounded 24 hours a day by every thing that could drag a man as low as he could slip. For over six months he had this treatment, but not once did the young lad buckle under pressure.
   Finally, after intensive temptation, they questioned him. Why had he not submitted himself to these things- why had he not partaken? These things would provide pleasure, satisfy his lusts, and were desirable, they were all his. the boy said, "I cannot do what you ask for I was born king."
   Teens, what do you think of  this?

10 Reasons to have a Good Laugh

'Laughter is the best medicine': we're always being told that, but there's actually more to a good giggle than just raising our spirits for a couple of minutes.

Research shows that while children laugh up to 400 times a day, adults do it only 17 times a day, on average.
In fact, laughter therapy is a big deal and can improve your health in lots of different ways. Just check out these 10 benefits of chuckling...

1. Laughter boosts your immune system

Researchers have found that laughter actually boosts the immune system, increasing the number of antibody-producing T cells. This then makes us less likely to get coughs and colds. It also lowers the levels of at least four hormones that are associated with stress, so after a good giggle you should be far less tense and anxious.

2. Laughter relieves pain

A good chortle has been found to reduce pain. Not only does it distract you from aches, but it releases feel good endorphins into your system that are more powerful than the same amount of morphine.

3. Laughter improves your social life

If you can make people laugh, then you're likely to have more friends, because everyone loves a joker. You're also likely to achieve more at work: if you have a good sense of humour you'll be more productive, a better communicator and team player.

In fact, most things we laugh at aren't necessarily actual jokes, but comments in everyday conversation. Laughter is as much about social relationships as it is about humour.
- Next: How laughing can help ease depression

4. Laughter helps relieve depression

Laughter has long been known to help people who are suffering from the either SAD or full-blown depression. Laughing reduces tension and stress, and lowers anxiety and irritation, which are all major factors that contribute to the blues.

5. Laughter boosts your relationship

If you're looking to find a new partner, then laughter will help you find a new mate. Men love women who laugh in their presence and women actually laugh 125% more than men.

And if you're already with someone, then a shared sense of humour is an important factor in keeping your relationship running smoothly.

6. Laughter gives you a mini-work-out

We've probably all used, or at least heard, the phrase 'my sides ache' after laughing too much. Well, it's no real surprise. A good belly laugh exercises the diaphragm, contracts your abdominal muscles and also works your shoulders. This will make you feel a lot more relaxed.

In fact, laughing 100 times is the equivalent to 10 minutes on the rowing machine or 15 minutes on an exercise bike, so break out those Only Fools And Horses DVDs and start watching!

7. Laughter protects your heart

According to a study by heart specialists at the University of Maryland, people with heart disease were 40% less likely to laugh in a variety of situations compared to people of the same age without heart disease.

Laughter has been found to benefit the way blood flows around the body, reducing the likelihood of heart disease. The research said that 15 minutes of laughter a day is as important for your heart as 30 minutes of exercise 3 times a week!

 8. Laughter lowers your blood pressure

People who laugh a lot on a regular basis have lower blood pressure than the average person. When people have a good laugh, the blood pressure increases at first, but then it decreases to levels below normal.

Breathing then becomes deeper and this helps to send oxygen-rich blood and nutrients throughout the body.

9. Laughter improves your breathing

Laughter empties your lungs of more air than it takes in resulting in a cleansing effect - similar to deep breathing. This is especially helpful for people who are suffering from respiratory ailments, such as asthma.

10. Laughter helps you lose weight

Burning off calories by laughing might not sound as if it has much use, but a hearty chuckle raises the heart rate and speeds up the metabolism.

If you're dieting, think about adding laughter to your exercise regime. A good sitcom might easily keep you laughing for 20 minutes or more.

There’s nothing that beats having a good laugh. I can’t go a day without it. I’m not saying that you should have a good laugh at the expense of someone’s reputation. You know, they are naïve, foolish and human like the rest of us. Ain’t make any sense doing something as such. Staying young is a state of mind: laughter puts you there!